When it comes to choosing your goals, it’s a given that other people will have a hand in your success. From the clerk in the store who helps you find a book (ie: you need it for information on your goal to learn how to invest your money), to the Coach who is supporting and guiding you along the way.

How do you “see” these people and all the hundreds of other humans you interact with, walk past on the street, maybe nod to or smile or say ‘hi’, see on TV, serve you in some way, etc.?

Well since the beginning of human presence on this planet we have been programmed to see ourselves as ‘separate’ from each other. Separate in our appearance (colour, stature, body features). Separate in our creeds and belief systems. Separate in our languages. Separate in age and gender. Separate in distances apart. Separate within manmade borders on a map. And I’m certain you can think of many more!

Separateness leads us to judgement and competition.

Now let’s look at our similarities. We are similar in that we all have the same bodily functions, we walk upright, we all communicate with language, we breathe oxygen, we require food and water to exist, and every human being born has these same basic human needs:

• Certainty
• Variety
• Significance
• Love/Connection
• Growth
• Contribution

These six basic needs are in ALL of us and they have a huge bearing on the goals we choose and how we go about connecting with them.

Similarities lead to understanding and acceptance.

Have you noticed that the ‘separation’ guidelines are mostly extrinsic and the similarities are mostly intrinsic?

Try this:

Every day for a week, focus and concentrate on the similarities you have with everyone you see and with whom you interact, keeping this thought in mind…..”We are all energy. Energy never dies. We all come from the same energy source, therefore we are all ONE”. WHEW! That’s a lot for the brain to absorb if you have never been introduced to this concept.

This is just one of the shifts in consciousness we are undergoing on this earth at this time and we welcome it. After a week of shifting your own consciousness to see the similarities you share with others, which foster unity, rather than focusing on the separateness which fosters comparisons, you will begin to feel that ‘oneness’.

Imagine not feeling like you have to compete, be better than, feel failure, feel misunderstood, maligned, unloved, disliked, judged, rejected, wrong.  It all goes away when we look at others as part of ourselves and treat them as if we are.

This is not an easy shift for plenty of us, but every change begins with one small adjustment. I guarantee you that if you do this, everything else in your life will shift too.

If you have goals involving relationships, finances, career, health, spiritual development, etc. this shift within YOU will invoke a very positive Universal Law of Attraction reaction.  By just focusing on other’s ‘oneness’ with you, you remove the barriers set up by separateness and you connect with the goals you desire through the shared and multiplied energy of oneness. Because……everything you want in life will in some way depend on other people.

(c) Lynn Moore 2011