The avalanche roaring down a mountainside.
Water tumbling over the precipice and falling hundreds of meters below.
The meteor hurtling into Earth’s atmosphere.
You can’t stop it.
Relentless forward motion, that is.
You are in your car speeding down the road at 110 km/hr. Out of nowhere a deer leaps onto the highway directly in your path and freezes on the spot. What do you do?
You likely jump on the brakes but you know that your forward motion speed will not allow you to stop in time. You know you and the deer are going to collide and you cannot take your fear-widened eyes off the deer!
What would happen if, instead of your eyes being glued to the deer, you had widened your periphery and seen a window of opportunity to the right, behind the deer, that would be just large enough for you to squeak between the deer and the road shoulder safely (for you and the deer)?
What if you glued your eyes to that space?
A traffic accident engineer would tell you this is the right thing to do because human beings are hardwired to go where they look.
I know! It’s very difficult not to be panicked into staring at what appears to be the inevitable. But the next time you find yourself on a stretch of road with no other traffic, try looking to the right or left instead of straight ahead and notice if your car starts to move in that direction.
The other lesson here is that you can’t stop relentless forward motion.
Yes, the avalanche will eventually come to a stop after burying you; tons of water falling into the river has drowned you and the meteor has fried you to a crisp.
But I just wanted to help you get the picture: Trying to stop relentless forward motion takes Herculean effort so why not try to go with it?
Here’s another one:
You are having the pants scared off you as you are racing downhill on a bicycle with no brakes, and the first thing you want to do is STOP!
You can either crash into the parked car in front of you (oops!) or you can do a split second glance around and steer a course to a softer landing (grass, bushes) or even a slight upgrade that would have slowed you down.
Okay, enough of the disastrous scenarios. Let’s turn them into something that will serve you very well when it comes to where you are going on life’s path.
Uber athlete Hillary Biscay says, “Look where you want to go and go where you look.”
When it comes to getting what you want (your goals), Relentless Forward Motion is you just continually showing up after others have quit. You’ll be too intently focused going where you look to see the ‘what if’ obstacles.
It might take a while, but if you keep showing up until you make it, that’s Relentless Forward Motion and you can’t be stopped.
It’s so easy to see the obstacles, the things in the way (the deer, the parked car), and I’m not saying don’t be aware of their possibility.
Instead, rehearse (in your mind) every likely obstacle in order to overcome it so nothing will be unexpected. If one jumps in your path, you will naturally look where you want to go…. around it.
So how does one put that motion into forward gear and work up to ‘relentless’? I’m going to tell you.
First, we need to take a look at this current craziness of getting what we want in nanoseconds; this new society of short cuts. Think 140 characters, texting and one-minute videos.
We have evolved into people who want everything tout suite rather than hold a meaningful, face-to-face conversation, read a novel in the Queen’s English or enjoy watching a full-length movie with a story that isn’t chopped up into 5 second flashes of special effects and decibels of ear-splitting noise.
Instant gratification and no investment equal no value. The ingredients of Relentless Forward Motion are tenacity, patience and preparation, which when blended and baked, equal you getting what you value, need and desire.
(Surprise ladies! Thought I’d give you a little eye candy…)
I love Darren Hardy’s 1-1-5-3-1-30-30-5 Plan!
(Warning: Not for the nanosecond, shortcut mentality)
Choose your number 1 goal: relationship, weight loss, building a business, investing finances, public speaking, selling, etc.
Decide what the number 1 skill is you need to accomplish that goal.
Choose 5 books on learning and practicing this skill and immediately go to Amazon and buy them. (Hint: they will be more than 140 characters!)
Choose 3 CD/DVD programs on this skill. (Hint: they will be longer than 60 seconds!)
Now choose 1 live seminar to attend on this skill.
Second: Take action and be patient
Read for 30 minutes each morning until you have consumed the 5 books. Will only take a couple of months or less
For 30 minutes each day, listen to/watch the audios/DVDs’s. (While walking, driving, working out, etc.)
The consistency of this small discipline compounded over time is Relentless Forward Motion while looking where you want to go.
Third: the 5 Step Process
1. Study – focus on that skill you need to learn
2. Extract – the 3 best ideas you find
3. Act – implement 1 of these ideas now
4. Measure – track your improvement (what you don’t measure, you can’t manage).
5. Improve – review, adjust, repeat
Lastly, goals are accomplished much more easily if you think of them as a labyrinth: there is only one starting point and only one stopping place. The rest is Relentless Forward Motion as you circle your desire, coming closer and closer with every step, knowing you are never losing sight of the prize as you look where you want to go and go where you look.